I admit it. Sometimes I compare myself to others. I wish I managed my blog and connected with new people as well as Lindsey does. To have the effortless grace Tami does would be wonderful. And how I’d love to wake up every day knowing exactly what I was made for, the way Britt does.
But I am not these fabulous women. I’m me. Not that there’s anything wrong with being me. I know I have my own unique gifts and talents–it’s just that sometimes I wish I possessed the unique talents other people already have. Wouldn’t that be fun-a sort of “widget” list of great attributes we could add to ourselves?
We all struggle with “Keeping up with the Joneses”. There’s a need to be seen as having it all together, staying on track with our career goals, having the perfect marriage, and being the perfect parents. As I’ve gotten older, there are a few lessons beginning to take shape:
- Titles don’t make the person-Early in my career, I set some serious “over achiever” goals for myself. And I worked way too hard to get them. A few years’ back, I realized I didn’t care about the ladder anymore. I cared more about being passionate about what I do.
- Being passionate is a must-The business cards, the paycheck, being part of a leadership team…none of that can ever add up to “enough” when you are alone with your thoughts if you don’t love what you do. Same goes for who we love, who we’re friends with, and what hobbies we spend time doing. We’re just burning hours without passion.
- Being happy is worth the risk-If you aren’t in a career, relationship, or church you love and are fed by, make room for a different possibility. Be willing to be uncomfortable for a little while in order to be happy in the end.
- There are no perfect people– We all have strengths–and weakenessess–that make us who we are. And while I may see characteristics in others I’m motivated to add to my own list, I know that God created each of us for a specific purpose and without those inherent traits, we would be unable to fulfill our purpose.
” Why compare yourself to others? No one in the entire world can do a better job of being you than you.”-author unknown
Do you struggle with this too?